So I've been talking to a guy online that I met on an online dating site for a few weeks. I've been getting on really well with him, we seem to understand each other and have a lot in common. A week or two ago he asked me to meet up with him, and I said no. I said no because as already mentioned the picture on my profile is a nice one, and I don't want to turn up looking like me and for him to be disappointed.
But he seems to be a bit persistant and asked me again last night. I'm really starting to feel a connection with him, so it left me with a bit of a dilema. I didn't want to meet him with him thinking I'll look exactly like my photo, as it's not really doing either of us any favours, and I'd really hate to be misled so I felt it was best to be open with him and explain I'm overweight.
So I finally plucked up the courage and told him that I've got a weight problem but that I'm sorting it with exercise. I wanted to use it apart from anything else as a getout clause for him, so that if fat people aren't his thing he doesn't have to go through the awkwardness of meeting me and being disappointed.
I really hope he'll see the person past the weight, but I'm trying to be realistic and brace myself for the fact he won't be interested.
It's hard because this is the first time in a long time I've put my heart on the line, but if I don't take risks I won't ever get what I want!
Watch this space I guess...
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I think you've done the best thing. I met my OH online and I was honest with him before we met about my weight. That was 3 years ago and I've not looked back.
ReplyDeleteIf he's worth it and any kind of decent person, he'll see past the weight. If he's an eejit, then you're better off without that in your life. Hard to deal with at first I know, especially when there is a connection already, but there is someone out there for all of us. Fingers crossed he's a good one :)
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